Sunday, February 27, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Rebuilding Intimacy in Your Relationship
Rebuilding Intimacy in Your Relationship
Written by Kate S. Evans, MA, LCPC
When relationships are not attended to regularly walls go up and intimacy goes down. Here are three of the main reasons that romance and intimacy disappear in relationships and what you can do to take charge of your relationship.
1. SecretsDon’t think you keep secrets? What about the little fears you have about yourself or your life?
What about the small frustrations you have with your partner that you don’t address for fear of “hurting their feelings” or “rocking the boat” or just because you don’t think your concerns are all that important?
Little secrets build up and get in the way, leading to bigger problems. If you want to have intimacy in your relationship, you have to be willing to be vulnerable to the other person. In order to be vulnerable you have to be willing to trust them to hear you.
Find 30 minutes a day to talk – not about the kids, or work, but about you and what your thoughts and hopes and dreams are. Take 10 minutes for each person to talk without interruption, and then take 10 minutes to process together. It will be strange at first, but the walls between you will soon come down.
2. Minimal physical contactHow do you have intimacy if you don’t touch each other? Many couples find that over time they forget to kiss hello and good-bye, they slowly stop giving spontaneous hugs or holding hands. Life gets in the way. Your work day is hard. The children have been ill. These are the times that it is most important to remember to do the little things.
Talk about where you are comfortable starting then follow though together. For example: Make an agreement that you will sit on the same couch, holding hands, while watching TV at night. Agree that you will never go to sleep without a kiss and an “I love you”. Whatever the place you start at, you can always add on. This will help to remind you that you are not just two people sharing a life, but a romantic partnership.
3. No alone time
When was the last time you were alone and had an experience that was unique to just the two of you? Socializing with mutual friends is nice, but we all need to refresh our relationships by being alone together. When other people are around, like friends, family or children they act as a buffer. It’s as if you have a safety net between you so that you don’t have to focus on each other.
Date nights may feel forced, but they are sometimes the best way to prioritize that alone time. Do something a little different each date night – stargazing, hiking, trying different restaurants – new and different experiences are the best to create unique moments for the two of you. You fell in love in the first place for a reason. Even if you are out of practice you will be at ease soon enough.
This is your life and your relationship. You can keep it romantic and intimate for a lifetime so long as you attend to it consistently and allow yourselves to be true partners regardless of the bumps and bruises of life.
http://www.familyhealthguide.co.uk/watering-the-seed-of-a-relationship.html
Written by Kate S. Evans, MA, LCPC
When relationships are not attended to regularly walls go up and intimacy goes down. Here are three of the main reasons that romance and intimacy disappear in relationships and what you can do to take charge of your relationship.
1. SecretsDon’t think you keep secrets? What about the little fears you have about yourself or your life?
What about the small frustrations you have with your partner that you don’t address for fear of “hurting their feelings” or “rocking the boat” or just because you don’t think your concerns are all that important?
Little secrets build up and get in the way, leading to bigger problems. If you want to have intimacy in your relationship, you have to be willing to be vulnerable to the other person. In order to be vulnerable you have to be willing to trust them to hear you.
Find 30 minutes a day to talk – not about the kids, or work, but about you and what your thoughts and hopes and dreams are. Take 10 minutes for each person to talk without interruption, and then take 10 minutes to process together. It will be strange at first, but the walls between you will soon come down.
2. Minimal physical contactHow do you have intimacy if you don’t touch each other? Many couples find that over time they forget to kiss hello and good-bye, they slowly stop giving spontaneous hugs or holding hands. Life gets in the way. Your work day is hard. The children have been ill. These are the times that it is most important to remember to do the little things.
Talk about where you are comfortable starting then follow though together. For example: Make an agreement that you will sit on the same couch, holding hands, while watching TV at night. Agree that you will never go to sleep without a kiss and an “I love you”. Whatever the place you start at, you can always add on. This will help to remind you that you are not just two people sharing a life, but a romantic partnership.
3. No alone time
When was the last time you were alone and had an experience that was unique to just the two of you? Socializing with mutual friends is nice, but we all need to refresh our relationships by being alone together. When other people are around, like friends, family or children they act as a buffer. It’s as if you have a safety net between you so that you don’t have to focus on each other.
Date nights may feel forced, but they are sometimes the best way to prioritize that alone time. Do something a little different each date night – stargazing, hiking, trying different restaurants – new and different experiences are the best to create unique moments for the two of you. You fell in love in the first place for a reason. Even if you are out of practice you will be at ease soon enough.
This is your life and your relationship. You can keep it romantic and intimate for a lifetime so long as you attend to it consistently and allow yourselves to be true partners regardless of the bumps and bruises of life.
http://www.familyhealthguide.co.uk/watering-the-seed-of-a-relationship.html
Thursday, February 10, 2011
marriage quotes
Steve Martin:"There is one thing I would break up over and that is if she caught me with another woman. I wouldn't stand for that."
Robert Louis Stevenson: "If we take matrimony at it's lowest, we regard it as a sort of friendship recognised by the police."
Billie Holiday:"Mom & Pop were just a couple of kids when they got married. He was eighteen, she was sixteen and I was three."
Rodney Dangerfield: "I haven't spoken to my wife in years. I didn't want to interrupt her."
Leonardo De Vinci: "Marriage is like putting your hand into a bag of snakes in the hope of pulling out an eel.
Brain Lane: “When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is new”
Benjamin Franklin: “One good husband is worth two good wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they are of value.”
Groucho Marks: “I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. "Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said.
So I suggested the kitchen.”
Brian Lane: “Got married, died”
Spike Milligan: "It was a perfect marriage. She didn't want to and he couldn't."
Groucho Marx: "I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury."
Robert Louis Stevenson: "If we take matrimony at it's lowest, we regard it as a sort of friendship recognised by the police."
Billie Holiday:"Mom & Pop were just a couple of kids when they got married. He was eighteen, she was sixteen and I was three."
Rodney Dangerfield: "I haven't spoken to my wife in years. I didn't want to interrupt her."
Leonardo De Vinci: "Marriage is like putting your hand into a bag of snakes in the hope of pulling out an eel.
Brain Lane: “When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is new”
Benjamin Franklin: “One good husband is worth two good wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they are of value.”
Groucho Marks: “I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. "Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said.
So I suggested the kitchen.”
Brian Lane: “Got married, died”
Spike Milligan: "It was a perfect marriage. She didn't want to and he couldn't."
Groucho Marx: "I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury."
What Religion is Your Bra?
What Religion is Your Bra?
A man walked into the ladies department of a Macy's, and shyly walked up to the woman behind the counter and said, " I'd like to buy a bra for my wife."
" What type of bra ? " Asked the clerk.
" Type ? " inquires the man, " There's more than one type? "
"Look around “ , said the saleslady, As she showed a sea of bras in every shape, size, color And material imaginable.
"Actually, Even with all of this variety, There are really only four types of bras to choose from."
Relieved, the man asked about the types.
The saleslady replied: " There are the Catholic, The Salvation Army, The Presbyterian, And the Baptist types.
Which one would you prefer ? "
Now totally befuddle the man asked about the differences between them.
The Saleslady responded, "It is all really quite simple. The Catholic type Supports the masses; The Salvation Army type lifts the fallen; The Presbyterian type keeps them staunch and upright; and The Baptist makes mountains out of molehills."
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Have you ever wondered why A, B, C, D, DD, E, F, G, and H are the letters used to define bra sizes?
If you have wondered why But couldn't figure out What the letters stood for, It is about time You became informed!
(A} Almost Boobs...
{B} Barely there...
{C} Can't Complain!...
{D} Dang!...
{DD} Double dang!.....
{E} Enormous!...
{F} Fake...
{G} Get a Reduction...
{H} Help me, I've fallen And I can't get up!...
And We Must NOT forget the German Made Bra; " Holtzemfromfloppen "
A man walked into the ladies department of a Macy's, and shyly walked up to the woman behind the counter and said, " I'd like to buy a bra for my wife."
" What type of bra ? " Asked the clerk.
" Type ? " inquires the man, " There's more than one type? "
"Look around “ , said the saleslady, As she showed a sea of bras in every shape, size, color And material imaginable.
"Actually, Even with all of this variety, There are really only four types of bras to choose from."
Relieved, the man asked about the types.
The saleslady replied: " There are the Catholic, The Salvation Army, The Presbyterian, And the Baptist types.
Which one would you prefer ? "
Now totally befuddle the man asked about the differences between them.
The Saleslady responded, "It is all really quite simple. The Catholic type Supports the masses; The Salvation Army type lifts the fallen; The Presbyterian type keeps them staunch and upright; and The Baptist makes mountains out of molehills."
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Have you ever wondered why A, B, C, D, DD, E, F, G, and H are the letters used to define bra sizes?
If you have wondered why But couldn't figure out What the letters stood for, It is about time You became informed!
(A} Almost Boobs...
{B} Barely there...
{C} Can't Complain!...
{D} Dang!...
{DD} Double dang!.....
{E} Enormous!...
{F} Fake...
{G} Get a Reduction...
{H} Help me, I've fallen And I can't get up!...
And We Must NOT forget the German Made Bra; " Holtzemfromfloppen "
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Thursday, February 3, 2011
AGE APPROPRIATE
AGE APPROPRIATE
The older we get...
ONE.
Recently, when I went to McDonald's, I saw on the menu that you could have an order of six, nine, or 12
Chicken McNuggets. I asked for a half dozen
nuggets. 'We don't have half dozen nuggets,'
said the teenager at the counter. 'You don't?' I replied. 'We only have six, nine, or 12,' was the reply. 'So I can't order a half dozen nuggets, but I can order six?'
'That's right.' So I shook my head and ordered
six McNuggets.
(Unbelievable but sadly true...)
TWO.
I was checking out at the local Walmart with just a few items and the lady behind me put her things on the belt close to mine. I picked up one of those 'dividers' that they keep by the cash register and placed it between our things so they wouldn't get mixed. After the girl had scanned all of my items, she picked up the 'divider,' looking it all over for the bar code so she could scan it. Not finding the bar code, she said to me, 'Do you know how much this is?' I said to her, 'I've changed my mind; I don't think I'll buy that today.' She said 'OK,' and I paid her for the things I'd bought and left.
She had no clue to what had just happened.
THREE.
I saw a woman at work putting a credit card into her floppy drive and pulling it out very quickly.
When I inquired as to what she was doing, she said she was shopping on the Internet and they kept asking for a credit card number, so she was using the ATM 'thingy.'
(Keep shuddering!)
FOUR.
I recently saw a distraught young lady weeping beside her car. 'Do you need some help?' I
asked. She replied, 'I knew I should have
replaced the battery to this remote door
unlocker. Now I can't get into my car.
Do you think they (pointing to a distant convenience store) would have a battery to fit this?'
'Hmmm, I don't know. Do you have an
alarm, too?' I asked 'No, just this remote
thingy,' she answered, handing it and the car keys to me. As I took the key and manually
unlocked the door, I replied, 'Why don't you drive over there and check about the batteries. It's a long walk....'
(PLEASE just lay down before you hurt yourself!)
FIVE.
Several years ago, we had an intern who was none too swift. One day she was typing and turned to a secretary and said, 'I'm almost out of typing paper. What do I do?' 'Just use paper from the photocopier', the secretary told her.
With that, the intern took her last remaining blank piece of paper, put it on the photocopier and proceeded to make five 'blank' copies.
(Brunette, by the way!)
SIX.
A mother calls 911 very worried, asking the dispatcher if she needs to take her kid to the emergency room - the kid had eaten ants. The dispatcher tells her to give the kid some Benadryl and he should be fine. The mother says, 'I just gave him some ant killer...' Dispatcher: 'Rush him in to emergency!'
(Life is tough. It's even tougher if you're stupid!)
The older we get...
ONE.
Recently, when I went to McDonald's, I saw on the menu that you could have an order of six, nine, or 12
Chicken McNuggets. I asked for a half dozen
nuggets. 'We don't have half dozen nuggets,'
said the teenager at the counter. 'You don't?' I replied. 'We only have six, nine, or 12,' was the reply. 'So I can't order a half dozen nuggets, but I can order six?'
'That's right.' So I shook my head and ordered
six McNuggets.
(Unbelievable but sadly true...)
TWO.
I was checking out at the local Walmart with just a few items and the lady behind me put her things on the belt close to mine. I picked up one of those 'dividers' that they keep by the cash register and placed it between our things so they wouldn't get mixed. After the girl had scanned all of my items, she picked up the 'divider,' looking it all over for the bar code so she could scan it. Not finding the bar code, she said to me, 'Do you know how much this is?' I said to her, 'I've changed my mind; I don't think I'll buy that today.' She said 'OK,' and I paid her for the things I'd bought and left.
She had no clue to what had just happened.
THREE.
I saw a woman at work putting a credit card into her floppy drive and pulling it out very quickly.
When I inquired as to what she was doing, she said she was shopping on the Internet and they kept asking for a credit card number, so she was using the ATM 'thingy.'
(Keep shuddering!)
FOUR.
I recently saw a distraught young lady weeping beside her car. 'Do you need some help?' I
asked. She replied, 'I knew I should have
replaced the battery to this remote door
unlocker. Now I can't get into my car.
Do you think they (pointing to a distant convenience store) would have a battery to fit this?'
'Hmmm, I don't know. Do you have an
alarm, too?' I asked 'No, just this remote
thingy,' she answered, handing it and the car keys to me. As I took the key and manually
unlocked the door, I replied, 'Why don't you drive over there and check about the batteries. It's a long walk....'
(PLEASE just lay down before you hurt yourself!)
FIVE.
Several years ago, we had an intern who was none too swift. One day she was typing and turned to a secretary and said, 'I'm almost out of typing paper. What do I do?' 'Just use paper from the photocopier', the secretary told her.
With that, the intern took her last remaining blank piece of paper, put it on the photocopier and proceeded to make five 'blank' copies.
(Brunette, by the way!)
SIX.
A mother calls 911 very worried, asking the dispatcher if she needs to take her kid to the emergency room - the kid had eaten ants. The dispatcher tells her to give the kid some Benadryl and he should be fine. The mother says, 'I just gave him some ant killer...' Dispatcher: 'Rush him in to emergency!'
(Life is tough. It's even tougher if you're stupid!)
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